I have had a nice little streak of women who have developed crushes on me, who, bless their hearts, just can't figure out why I don't return their affection. So, I am developing a list of the top excuses given as to why a closet-case moho won't pursue a relationship.
1. I'm not really looking for a relationship right now.
2. She's too good for me.
3. I'm too busy with work/school.
4. I already like this other girl who lives on the other side of country. (Ha! reminds me a song "I wish you could meet my girlfriend. My girlfriend who lives in Canada.")
Hm, that turned out to be a shorter list than I thought. So I guess part 2 of this post is a question. What do I do when a girl falls for me? How do I let her down without breaking her heart?
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Unfortunately, being LDS, saying that you are preparing for the priesthood won't work.
If you were a girl, you could get a fake cubic zirconium engagement ring; but, that option isn't available to guys.
I suppose you could develop some annoying habits and/or lapses in personal hygiene. :)
Haha! Love it. I have actually tried the fake girlfriend bit before, but never went so far to attempt the fake ring. And I tend to think that I probably do have annoying habits, so I guess the next step is poor personal hygiene. Good comment.
You have to remember that if a girl falls for you, you might cause her a bit of pain, but I doubt you'll break her heart unless she's emotionally unstable--and she's not a safe mate for you then even under heterosexual conditions.
The truth is, the best thing you can do is to be straight-forward and tell her you're not interested. You don't have to give a reason. In fact, if she asks for one, saying, "No reason, really. I'm just not interested. At all," will send the message more strongly than beating around the bush or being dishonest. And you'll feel better about yourself.
It's not rude. It's not unkind. It's honest. And when you're honest, you don't have to defend or excuse your words.
And yes, I have used this technique personally. :)
You could say you just finished up with a sticky relationship and you really are not looking to jump into anything just yet.
Could be that one of those ladies might just be able to accept your sexuality and desire to be with you.
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